Let’s see what happens

One of the most commonly asked questions when you meet someone of the opposite sex that you’re potentially interested in is, “So what are you looking for?”. This question is a staple of those who are experienced in the dating scene as it almost lets you know whether or not you’re wasting time with this individual, whether or not you’d like to date them and so on. This question albeit a good one is not a complete telltale of what the person you’re asking the question is really looking for. This is due in part to deceit, confusion, and my least favorite, grandiose unrealistic expectations. Anyone familiar with Coming to America, can share a laugh on this because it shows all three examples. Take for instance the scene when Hakeem (Eddie Murphy) and Semi (Arsenio Hall) were looking at potential dates for Hakeem in the club. There was the one lady whom said, I want to be a model, then I want to be an actress, and later a singer a model, a director, and she goes on and on. SMH LOL Not only was her bit funny but it could be used to the example of someone with grandiose unrealistic expectations. Now don’t get me wrong, I’m not knocking anyone for sticking to their dreams but, we all have to start somewhere and judging by the way she was, that wasn’t likely going to happen anytime soon as she would’ve jumping from one thing to the other more often than sticking to one thing first. There was the woman that Hakeem and Semi met at the club that was attractive and seemed like a good catch until she told them that “she worships the devil” and that could easily be used as an example of deceit as looks can be at times. Finally, there’s the female that wasn’t a female played by Arsenio who wanted to “tear them apart”. LMAO. That is too funny. Now the reason I say this one represents confusion because like today’s society there are more and more people of opposite sexes confused about their sexuality. This can be attributed to a variety of things from past childhood experiences, to the seemingly new fad of being bisexual and society’s current acceptance of allowing everyone to express themselves sexually. Additionally, I’ve discovered another trend of women that appear to be straight when you meet them but when you really get to know them, you find out about a bi-curious past /present which you never expected from someone whom seemingly liked only men. So instead of giving a person the opportunity to lie to me, when I ask them what do they want in the opposite sex, I take what they say only with a grain of salt, because regardless of what they tell me, I’m always going to be saying in the back of my mind, “Lets see what happens”

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