Question # 6

Hey all! This post came out a little later than normal but nonetheless I hope you find it worth the wait. (Singing) “You got to have something, if you want something, you got to have something if you wanna be with me” , “There’s no romance without finance (2x)”, “Ain’t nothing going on but the rent,”  ” Gotta have  a j.o.b. if you wanna be with me!” Those lyrics come from a familiar R&B song in the 80’s by a singer named Gwen Guthrie. The meaning is definitely in the lyrics. The average man when he hears these lyrics  thinks “oh boy here they go with another gold digger’s  anthem!” I think it depends on how you look at it. In this modern-day and age, more and more women are getting higher salaries from better paying jobs, better education and business opportunities made available. The age of the independent woman is here. More often than not, I often hear stories from some of my associates that tell me that a man’s finances is an important factor that they consider before even looking at him as a viable person for them to get involved with. Some of them even go as far as to say, “I don’t deal with broke n—as!” While I understand that a person’s finances are of some importance when you consider being with them as finances are needed to go on dates, buy gifts, buy gas to get places,etc.; I often wonder what are some of the reasons why finances are important to the opposite sex.  Is it really necessary to put an emphasis on a person’s financial status when you’re just getting to know someone? So my question is, why are finances important to you (if they are), when you consider dealing with someone?