Love the one you with?

It is in my opinion that on the dating scene; you’re success depends on your definition of success and what value that success holds in your life.  There are moments being single on the dating scene in which you may say to yourself: “Being single is the sh#@!” and there are other moments when it’s not going so well and you say, “I’m going to be single forever!”.  The trick to the trade is to find a balance between the two and stay in a generally positive mood for the most part. One of the most interesting ironies I find is when you often see the common scenario where a person is sought after by many suitors but because it’s not the one that they want they often seem unfulfilled and make claims of loneliness. They might entertain these suitors from time to time and may even deal with them on a no strings attached basis (we all need some type of friend besides Jesus lol) but if you were to ask them were they truly happy, if they are honest, they will almost always say no.  To add insult to injury in their situation, they are likely pursuing someone who isn’t interested or can’t be involved with them due to prior obligations (marriage,current relationship,different sexual preference,etc.); sort of like her very own suitors.  How Ironic! So, in short, I guess the real questions are, “Why do we want what we can’t have?” and “Why don’t we want the people who want us as much they want us?”.  Is it that we are so curious about the unknown ? Is it the pull of curiosity outweighs certainty? Is it that we feel that person or those people aren’t challenges and we think we’re settling for less?  The answers to these questions all depends on who  you’re asking because there is truly a method to everyone’s madness.  I think it comes down to two things: standards and morals.  Standards. Most people have standards and naturally some meet them and others don’t. Morals. Some people have a sense of morals and being that they like doing things a certain way they follow their morals to a tee. Unfortunately, there are those out there that no matter who they’re with they are going to never be satisfied due to greed and no one person is enough for them.  When it’s all said and done, and you’re tired of the dating scene, do you continue to be like the old USAF motto and Aim High or what Luther once sung, “Love the one you with”?